Basically, when you show her some attention, it makes her find you more attractive.
xoxo
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
Call me!
There is a reason why your girlfriend keeps begging you to call, text, email, her more often. Check it out!
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Some of my latest modeling work in the November issue of Instyle
and the December issue of Instyle. (Pick up a copy!)
xoxo
Spidey Sense
I think as humans we have a sense when something is going wrong for another human. Most of us have an instinct to nutter those who are troubled. It is only natural then, for us to reach out when we see or hear or feel something wrong.
Whenever a relationship is going through a rough spot, other people seem to suddenly come flying out of the woodwork. For instance, say a couple is going through a rough patch, all of a sudden, all of the girl's exes try to get in contact with her. I can only speculate if the same is true for men going through a breakup. Guys, do you suddenly get girls clamoring for your affection as soon as your girlfriend and you are in a fight?
The opposite is often true as well. For instance, being single and looking for love can take months and seem to drag on. Yet, when you finally decide to stop looking for love, it finds you. We are turned off by desperation. We can sense when a person just wants to be with us, to be with someone, versus allowing a relationship to form naturally out of two non-desperate individuals getting to know one another.
Have you ever been turned off from dating someone because they seemed desperate? Were they too clingy? Why do we desire affection when we don't get it, and then as soon as someone gives us what we want, we don't want them?
Is dating a never ending game of cat and mouse? Why can't we be blissfully happy and content showing the same level of affection we are receiving? Why can't we decide what we want and stick with it? If you want someone's undying love, attention and affection, you should return the same, and if you don't get what you want, move on.
We have so much difficulty cutting ties. We'd rather be unhappy and with someone than be alone. What if you could be happy alone? Or what if there is someone else out there who will make you happy? Someone who wants to show you the same level of affection that you want to show them?
Back to the Spidey sense business, if you find yourself struggling to find happiness where you are at, and members of the opposite sex are suddenly picking up on this and vying for your attention, give it to them. If you're unhappy there is nothing wrong with seeing if there is someone else out there who can make you happy.
You may find that everyone else fails in comparison to your man or your girl and end up staying with them and compromising together to bring your relationship to a happy place again. You may find that everyone else out there makes your current situation seem dismal and you can make the appropriate choices for yourself.
I do not condone cheating while in a relationship. If your relationship is that bad that you're willing to cheat, then just break up. You need to determine what you and your partner consider cheating. Most don't assume simply talking to a member of the opposite sex is cheating. It depends what you and your partner feel comfortable and happy with, so as to not lose the trust in the relationship. If your relationship is on the rocks, just keep yourself open to finding a happy hour.
Xoxo
Monday, November 28, 2011
fate?
Do you believe in fate? Free will? Destiny? Are we all players in God's great game of Sims?
I believe in God and that we all have a purpose in life. I believe He chooses who is conceived. The rest of our choices are up to us. I also believe that he can change factors in your life. He can perform miracles. He can sway the odds in your favor. He can answer prayers. Sometimes that answer is no.
We expect God to step in when we make a mess of our lives but forget to thank him along the way. We expect everything to go in our favor but forget that it is He who must have favor upon us.
What do you all think about fate? Do you think God places certain people in your life intentionally or is it coincidence? Have you ever rekindled an old romance? Have you ran into an old friend years later at just the time you needed someone?
I suppose I'm not convinced entirely on free will versus fate. Keep an eye out for more upcoming blogs as I delve deeper into this question.
Xoxo
I believe in God and that we all have a purpose in life. I believe He chooses who is conceived. The rest of our choices are up to us. I also believe that he can change factors in your life. He can perform miracles. He can sway the odds in your favor. He can answer prayers. Sometimes that answer is no.
We expect God to step in when we make a mess of our lives but forget to thank him along the way. We expect everything to go in our favor but forget that it is He who must have favor upon us.
What do you all think about fate? Do you think God places certain people in your life intentionally or is it coincidence? Have you ever rekindled an old romance? Have you ran into an old friend years later at just the time you needed someone?
I suppose I'm not convinced entirely on free will versus fate. Keep an eye out for more upcoming blogs as I delve deeper into this question.
Xoxo
Monday, November 21, 2011
great holiday season idea
I found online a really cute idea for making melted snowmen cookies. Check it out! I know what I'll be making this year!
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Sunday, November 13, 2011
Knowing your worth
Sometimes we forget how much value we really have. We let others diminish our worth by believing their opinions as fact. We succumb to pressure to appease people that don't even have our best interest in mind. They don't have our interests in mind at all actually, only their own. Why is being liked so much more important than being happy? Why do we put our partner's wants, dreams, and desires over our own? So far over our own, in fact, that we give up our wants, dreams, and desires altogether and simply do whatever he or she wants?
We are raised to keep up with the Jones. We are bred to believe that popularity equals happiness and worth. That our value is based on quantity not quality. However, I intend to change this mindset for myself. I want to value qualities in people I associate myself with. It is hard to let go of caring about what other people think. We are taught to ask others opinions before making decisions on our own. Why? Why can't we think about something, and without listening to anyone else, make a solid choice on what will make us happiest?
Some people in the past have told me that when I give advice it can come off as judgmental or condescending. My response to that, is that I am giving every piece of advice to myself as well. Every time I tell someone that they deserve better, I am telling it to myself. Every time I tell someone to stop being lazy and go after what they want, I am telling it to myself as well. You should never have a problem with someone trying to better you, trying to help you. I tell people to surround themselves with those who strive to better themselves, so that you too may succeed. The first thing I intend to do is lift up those around me.
For instance, Eber, you have a very giving and nurturing heart. I pray for a man to come into your life who measures up to what you deserve and to give you all that you give. Hold onto your friends because everyone needs a support system.
My mom, you are the greatest role model a daughter could ever ask for. You've shone me unconditional love and are the most loving and caring person I've ever met. There is no problem too big that you can't help any person solve. You have changed so many peoples lives with your sense when something is troubling someone, with you words and your faith. Most people try to avoid becoming their parents, and I strive to be like you.
My dad, you have taught me many things of what to expect in a future husband. You have taught me that following my dreams is possible and you have supported me the entire way. If a father's mission is to make his children feel loved and that there is someone proud of them, you have done your job, and continue to do so.
To all of my co-workers at Sephora, many of you don't know your worth. You should feel confident and steadfast knowing that hard work does pay off, and there is a time to move up or move on. There are many opportunities in front of you, and many opportunities that you have to search for. No body will ever fault you for bettering yourself. No body will ever tell you that you should stay where you are, because the world is a big place and it moves fast. Don't get left behind.
Caly, don't settle and sell yourself short of all the potential inside. Keep moving forward, you make friends very quickly and use that to your advantage, by surrounding yourself with people who are going places. I will always be there for you.
Deonne, you are a beautiful woman, inside and out. You are someone who can do it all and who works hard to go to school, work, and maintain a home and a marriage with your husband. Keep working hard because it will continue to pay off, and the light that God has surrounded you with will bring positive influences into your life and into your career. You are a friend that can always be counted on.
To all of my family and high school and college friends back in CT and everywhere else, be whatever you want to be, but make a name for yourself. Don't let others define you. You decide what you want to be remembered for. Go after whatever your heart desires, and get it!
To my New York friends, you've made it this far, so half the battle is over. Keep going, and persevere. You never know where you'll end up or what you'll become a part of. You can write your own history. Never forget where you started and always strive to help others better themselves as well.
To everyone, don't waste another day. Sooner than you expect you'll realize that things you wanted to accomplish have past. Don't sit back and let life pass you by. Do everything you can to make the desires of your heart come true. Do it now. If there is any part of you or your life that you want to change, change it, any part of yourself that you want to better, improve it. Know your worth and know that you can constantly add to your value on your own. You don't need anyone else to get you there.
xoxo
We are raised to keep up with the Jones. We are bred to believe that popularity equals happiness and worth. That our value is based on quantity not quality. However, I intend to change this mindset for myself. I want to value qualities in people I associate myself with. It is hard to let go of caring about what other people think. We are taught to ask others opinions before making decisions on our own. Why? Why can't we think about something, and without listening to anyone else, make a solid choice on what will make us happiest?
Some people in the past have told me that when I give advice it can come off as judgmental or condescending. My response to that, is that I am giving every piece of advice to myself as well. Every time I tell someone that they deserve better, I am telling it to myself. Every time I tell someone to stop being lazy and go after what they want, I am telling it to myself as well. You should never have a problem with someone trying to better you, trying to help you. I tell people to surround themselves with those who strive to better themselves, so that you too may succeed. The first thing I intend to do is lift up those around me.
For instance, Eber, you have a very giving and nurturing heart. I pray for a man to come into your life who measures up to what you deserve and to give you all that you give. Hold onto your friends because everyone needs a support system.
My mom, you are the greatest role model a daughter could ever ask for. You've shone me unconditional love and are the most loving and caring person I've ever met. There is no problem too big that you can't help any person solve. You have changed so many peoples lives with your sense when something is troubling someone, with you words and your faith. Most people try to avoid becoming their parents, and I strive to be like you.
My dad, you have taught me many things of what to expect in a future husband. You have taught me that following my dreams is possible and you have supported me the entire way. If a father's mission is to make his children feel loved and that there is someone proud of them, you have done your job, and continue to do so.
To all of my co-workers at Sephora, many of you don't know your worth. You should feel confident and steadfast knowing that hard work does pay off, and there is a time to move up or move on. There are many opportunities in front of you, and many opportunities that you have to search for. No body will ever fault you for bettering yourself. No body will ever tell you that you should stay where you are, because the world is a big place and it moves fast. Don't get left behind.
Caly, don't settle and sell yourself short of all the potential inside. Keep moving forward, you make friends very quickly and use that to your advantage, by surrounding yourself with people who are going places. I will always be there for you.
Deonne, you are a beautiful woman, inside and out. You are someone who can do it all and who works hard to go to school, work, and maintain a home and a marriage with your husband. Keep working hard because it will continue to pay off, and the light that God has surrounded you with will bring positive influences into your life and into your career. You are a friend that can always be counted on.
To all of my family and high school and college friends back in CT and everywhere else, be whatever you want to be, but make a name for yourself. Don't let others define you. You decide what you want to be remembered for. Go after whatever your heart desires, and get it!
To my New York friends, you've made it this far, so half the battle is over. Keep going, and persevere. You never know where you'll end up or what you'll become a part of. You can write your own history. Never forget where you started and always strive to help others better themselves as well.
To everyone, don't waste another day. Sooner than you expect you'll realize that things you wanted to accomplish have past. Don't sit back and let life pass you by. Do everything you can to make the desires of your heart come true. Do it now. If there is any part of you or your life that you want to change, change it, any part of yourself that you want to better, improve it. Know your worth and know that you can constantly add to your value on your own. You don't need anyone else to get you there.
xoxo
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
The Secret
This is a very inspiring video about focusing on your goals to achieve them rather than focusing on your failures.
Saturday, October 8, 2011
marriage
I've been thinking a lot lately that maybe arranged marriages aren't so bad. No, that's not the sound of desperation. Hear me out on this one. Your parents have likely been married, maybe still are. They know what it takes for a marriage to last and what will tear it apart. They know, from first hand experience, how to have a successful or unsuccessful marriage. Why not let them pick your future husband or wife out? In some cultures there is even a courtship period where the couple can decide if their parents' choice is a good suit for them. Some cultures, the woman is looked at as a prize. Others, more extreme, and not really the ones I am going to battle for right now, see the woman as property and a burden at the same time, the girl's family often has to pay a large dowry to the man for taking her off of their hands. I don't think my parents should have to do this, even though it is still very customary even in the United States to have the bride's family pay for the wedding. Is that a type of dowry? What about when the bride is worth more than the husband? Does the man have to pay a dowry to the wife?
My biggest argument is simply that dating would be easier if someone who loves and cares for you had the chance to weed out all the bad guys and just left you with a handful of contenders to pick from. Think of how much stress you can avoid by getting to know someone and trying to impress them and worrying if he's the one, only to not get called back and have to sit and wonder what you did wrong. It'd be much easier to have potential bachelors weeded out by your family members. After all, even if we try not to be, we are our parents' children, and they usually know what's best for us.
So, moms and dads everywhere, this is your challenge! If you are unhappy with your child's current boyfriend or girlfriend, search for a better option for them, and set them up with your favorite pick for a one night blind date. Give it a try.
Xoxo
My biggest argument is simply that dating would be easier if someone who loves and cares for you had the chance to weed out all the bad guys and just left you with a handful of contenders to pick from. Think of how much stress you can avoid by getting to know someone and trying to impress them and worrying if he's the one, only to not get called back and have to sit and wonder what you did wrong. It'd be much easier to have potential bachelors weeded out by your family members. After all, even if we try not to be, we are our parents' children, and they usually know what's best for us.
So, moms and dads everywhere, this is your challenge! If you are unhappy with your child's current boyfriend or girlfriend, search for a better option for them, and set them up with your favorite pick for a one night blind date. Give it a try.
Xoxo
Thursday, October 6, 2011
Project Accessory
I will be modeling on a new show all season so check out lifetime for more details on the upcoming show. The season starts November 3rd at 10pm and airs every Thursday night right after Project Runway All-Stars. Don't miss an episode!!!!
xoxo
xoxo
Monday, October 3, 2011
Lady Gaga? More like Jersey Shore.
A made for tv film is in the works to chronicle her life from Stefani Germanotta to Lady Gaga. See below what she looked like before all the hype. Seems like this Jersey Shore going gal, changed quite a bit for fame and fortune.
what do you think?
xoxo
xoxo
Friday, September 30, 2011
the many scents of New York
On my way to a shoot the other day I realized that New York has many very distinctive and unique scents that you won't find anywhere else. (some of which you'd never want to find)
While walking down one block you can smell fresh made pizzas, fresh cut flowers, and freshly stacked garbage bags. You can smell the odor of someone hiding behind their grocery cart full of random items, smell freshly sprinkled urine on the sidewalk.
New York has some of the best smells, like when walking by bakeries, restaurants, fruit stands and flower markets. They also have some of the worse, like cigarette smoke, body odor that makes you run to a different subway car, garbage piled 6ft high, truck exhaust, urine from people and animals, dog poo that the owner left on the sidewalk, among many other things. Yet, no matter what the smells, we stay in this city because there is nothing else like it. We stay because on the same block as the garbage piles, there is a Halal food truck, a frozen yogurt truck, a taco truck, a candied nuts guy, a fresh fruit stand, a $1 pizza slice joint, and a hundred skyscrapers more glorious and unique and historical than you can find anywhere else in the United States.
New Yorkers love this city for far different reasons than tourists do. We love New York for the variety of international cuisine you can find at any time of day or night, from French crêpes, to Colombian empanadas.
We love this city for the smells, the good ones mostly, but the bad ones too, because we wouldn't appreciate the good ones as much if I weren't for the bad.
We love New York for the snooty clubs that you have to be dressed to impress to get in the door, the dive bars that have a thousand bras on the wall, the streets with a bar every ten feet, and that lone bar on your block that somehow gets packed.
We love the shopping. More designer clothing than anywhere else in the world, and more cheap trendy boutiques than you could ever shop in.
We will pay more for a place with a view of the Hudson, no matter how brown it gets. We go to free outdoor movies, and pay $15 to see one indoors. We find restaurants we love and go back even if the meals are expensive but the food is delicious. We know what days, times, and areas all the tourists will be in and avoid them at all costs. We pay more for used clothes than new sometimes just so we can call it vintage. This is the only part of the country where adult sleepovers happen almost every weekend because taking the subway home to a borough could take two hours after a night of partying so you stay with friends that live close to the bars you went to.
Manhattan is known for bums and skyscrapers, for Times Square, the Empire state building, the Statue of Liberty and the World Trade Center. During your first visit to New York City, do the tourist stuff. Do it all and get it checked off your list. The second time you visit the city, shop in soho and canal street, go out to dinner in a fine restaurant on Park or Fifth ave, walk around in St. Marks place for a casual night, get dressed up and bar hop in the meatpacking district. Don't do anything your tour guidebook tells you to do. Do everything that you ask locals about. It's ok to take a tourist trip, you should. But your second trip, will be how you fall in love with New York City, and all of it's smells.
Xoxo
While walking down one block you can smell fresh made pizzas, fresh cut flowers, and freshly stacked garbage bags. You can smell the odor of someone hiding behind their grocery cart full of random items, smell freshly sprinkled urine on the sidewalk.
New York has some of the best smells, like when walking by bakeries, restaurants, fruit stands and flower markets. They also have some of the worse, like cigarette smoke, body odor that makes you run to a different subway car, garbage piled 6ft high, truck exhaust, urine from people and animals, dog poo that the owner left on the sidewalk, among many other things. Yet, no matter what the smells, we stay in this city because there is nothing else like it. We stay because on the same block as the garbage piles, there is a Halal food truck, a frozen yogurt truck, a taco truck, a candied nuts guy, a fresh fruit stand, a $1 pizza slice joint, and a hundred skyscrapers more glorious and unique and historical than you can find anywhere else in the United States.
New Yorkers love this city for far different reasons than tourists do. We love New York for the variety of international cuisine you can find at any time of day or night, from French crêpes, to Colombian empanadas.
We love this city for the smells, the good ones mostly, but the bad ones too, because we wouldn't appreciate the good ones as much if I weren't for the bad.
We love New York for the snooty clubs that you have to be dressed to impress to get in the door, the dive bars that have a thousand bras on the wall, the streets with a bar every ten feet, and that lone bar on your block that somehow gets packed.
We love the shopping. More designer clothing than anywhere else in the world, and more cheap trendy boutiques than you could ever shop in.
We will pay more for a place with a view of the Hudson, no matter how brown it gets. We go to free outdoor movies, and pay $15 to see one indoors. We find restaurants we love and go back even if the meals are expensive but the food is delicious. We know what days, times, and areas all the tourists will be in and avoid them at all costs. We pay more for used clothes than new sometimes just so we can call it vintage. This is the only part of the country where adult sleepovers happen almost every weekend because taking the subway home to a borough could take two hours after a night of partying so you stay with friends that live close to the bars you went to.
Manhattan is known for bums and skyscrapers, for Times Square, the Empire state building, the Statue of Liberty and the World Trade Center. During your first visit to New York City, do the tourist stuff. Do it all and get it checked off your list. The second time you visit the city, shop in soho and canal street, go out to dinner in a fine restaurant on Park or Fifth ave, walk around in St. Marks place for a casual night, get dressed up and bar hop in the meatpacking district. Don't do anything your tour guidebook tells you to do. Do everything that you ask locals about. It's ok to take a tourist trip, you should. But your second trip, will be how you fall in love with New York City, and all of it's smells.
Xoxo
I'm a damsel
Last week I had a quick brush with fear in the city. After a girls night out, I walked a friend to her subway home and walked towards mine, only one block away. Just as I was about to get out my metrocard, I realized that my wallet wasn't in my purse. I had left it at a friend of a friend's house earlier in the night. We had already taken a cab uptown and the girl who had my wallet was all the way down by little Italy. There was no way I could walk to her apartment 50 blocks away. I couldn't pay for a cab because I had no wallet, and no money. I had no way to buy a subway ride. No way of walking home to Queens, 8 miles away.
I got a quick glimpse of what it feels like to be homeless in a way. They must feel lost, feel desperate, feel like they have no where to turn and no way of getting anywhere. Luckily, being a quick-thinker and problem-solver, and having some good friends saved my night. I walked 9 blocks to my job at Sephora, where the overnight stock guys were working away all night long. One was very nice to lend me $5 to buy a metrocard to get home, and get back into the city during the day to get my wallet. Everything went smoothly for the remainder of the story. I got home safe, got the phone number of the girl who's house my wallet was at, and arranged to pick it up the following day.
Had it been a different night, when there was no overnight employees scheduled, or had I not worked 9 blocks from where I realized I left my wallet, that night could of turned out much worse. I guess the moral of the story is how blessed I am to have the right things fall into place even when something starts to go really wrong. I am also very thankful that I have people in my life willing to step in when I do need help and ask for nothing in return.
As I tried to repay him the $5, he wouldn't accept it, saying that he would get it back in another form some day, in some way, from someone else, alluding to the great wonder of karma. I feel I should do something good to give back since I had the best luck that night and was given the gift of safety, something the majority of us take for granted. Let me know your ideas on what I can do to pay it forward.
Xoxo
I got a quick glimpse of what it feels like to be homeless in a way. They must feel lost, feel desperate, feel like they have no where to turn and no way of getting anywhere. Luckily, being a quick-thinker and problem-solver, and having some good friends saved my night. I walked 9 blocks to my job at Sephora, where the overnight stock guys were working away all night long. One was very nice to lend me $5 to buy a metrocard to get home, and get back into the city during the day to get my wallet. Everything went smoothly for the remainder of the story. I got home safe, got the phone number of the girl who's house my wallet was at, and arranged to pick it up the following day.
Had it been a different night, when there was no overnight employees scheduled, or had I not worked 9 blocks from where I realized I left my wallet, that night could of turned out much worse. I guess the moral of the story is how blessed I am to have the right things fall into place even when something starts to go really wrong. I am also very thankful that I have people in my life willing to step in when I do need help and ask for nothing in return.
As I tried to repay him the $5, he wouldn't accept it, saying that he would get it back in another form some day, in some way, from someone else, alluding to the great wonder of karma. I feel I should do something good to give back since I had the best luck that night and was given the gift of safety, something the majority of us take for granted. Let me know your ideas on what I can do to pay it forward.
Xoxo
Thursday, September 29, 2011
trust your gut
They say to "go with your gut," "trust your first instinct," "follow your heart." But, what if you don't know what your gut is trying to tell you? What if you can't hear your own instincts? What if your heart is all jumbled up? How do you make those tough decisions in life that are not so black and white but have so many shades of grey?
I don't have an answer to any of those questions right now, but I'm working on it. My best guess is that, in time, the grey will fade and it will become much more clear what it is you need to do. I mean, they do also say, "only time will tell."
Xoxo
I don't have an answer to any of those questions right now, but I'm working on it. My best guess is that, in time, the grey will fade and it will become much more clear what it is you need to do. I mean, they do also say, "only time will tell."
Xoxo
Saturday, September 24, 2011
funny subway ads
My favorite thus far have been the humorous ads by Manhattan Mini Storage. You can view a whole bunch of them here: ManhattanMiniStorageAds Here is my favorite.
The subway is filled with funny ads, which is good because New Yorkers have on average the longest commute of any city, and at least we can have a little laugh on the inside when we see a funny ad to make our hour long ride on the subway during rush hour, a little less monotonous.
xoxo
Another company that has funny ads is ZipCar. Here is the best one:
xoxo
Friday, September 16, 2011
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