a new type of dress-pants

can anyone explain this?

The only way up is up

Delta airlines are advertising new slogans on their subway signs, the one that stuck with me is, the only way up is up. I was thinking about this and it is really true. The only way to succeed is to succeed. You have to get up off your butt, get up out of the house, get up early to get to your interviews, climb the stairs up the corporate or literal ladder. If you want to be a success you have to first work your way up. That is the only way. The only way up is up. You can't stay down and flatline yourself on a plateau if you are trying to become someone great. You have to set goals and consistently move towards them. No moving downward is allowed on your way up. Tumbling down a mountain just hurts and once you are at the bottom, you are too bruised and tired to bother trying to hike up it again. So, save yourself the pain and anguish and just keep moving up and never look back.
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This dieting thing really works

For the last couple weeks I have been trying really hard to stick to my diet, especially eating lots of fruits and veges and grilled chicken. It really works, I've already lost 6lbs! Of course I splurged a little every now and then, eating a lollipop or half a cupcake when I really wanted it, but that's the key to it. If you are craving, just have a little. Half a cupcake made me happy, I don't need 3 huge pieces of cake. Another thing that has helped is I am getting a lot of sleep. The more you sleep, the less you eat! Well, speaking of eating, I am going to go make a snack. Salad, tangerine, cereal with fat free milk? hum... what'll it be.

Everyday is like halloween

Everyone dresses like someone they aren't. Your job may require you to wear a suit, while deep down you are itching to wear a bikini and stilettos to work. We all put on our masks and pretend personalities at work because the customer is always right. But, what about when they are wrong? We can't suddenly become ourselves and tell them off, even if it's what we really want to do. And we are always tricking and treating. We trick ourselves into believing things and we also trick others. People trick us. You think you know somebody and then, bam, suddenly you just got tricked and they just stole your idea to get a promotion, or they stole your man, or they stole your fashion sense. Also, life is full of treats. We overindulge ourselves in sweets, and shopping, and all the things that are really bad for us. We "treat" ourselves to that new coach bag that we oh so deserve, even if really we don't deserve it, and we treated ourselves to ice cream last night and those new shoes two days ago and that hot dress that we just couldn't resist at the last store we went into earlier today. Life is about balance, so in order to keep halloween to once a year. Let's not spoil ourselves too much, and lets try to be more real. Keep the lying to a minimum and show your personality. I'd much rather buy something from someone who told me, "Guuuurrrrllll that is the best eyeliner, but that one over there, that's more expensive, doesn't work." than someone who says, "Oh, you need this, it is the most-exclusive, most high-end eyeliner you can buy." (and brings me to the YSL section) We want the truth, we want to know what works. For instance, in the doctor's office. Do I want the most expensive prescription, or the one that won't give me 35 side effects? In court, do I want to pay for a celebrity attorney, or one who has the time to do research and win my case? At the supermarket, do I want escargot, or chicken? Ha... ok so I think some delicacies, are gross. I'll take chicken please.
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When will girls learn

Ladies, ladies, ladies... you complain about men treating you wrong, but you just keep going back to them and keep doing the same stupid things. Why do you wonder why they treat you like that? It is pretty obvious they treat you how they think you want them to treat you because you give them no reason to think otherwise.
1. Stop randomly hooking up, they will only view you as a hookup, and nothing more. Ever.
2. If you have evidence they are cheating, they are. And they will continue to do so.
3. If you argue more than you get along, move on.
4. If he is married, or dating someone else, don't waste your time, he isn't in the process of getting a divorce, and she does not know about you.
5. If you are currently sleeping with more than one guy, you are a slut. I don't care if you are offended, it is the truth.
6. Ladies, start acting like ladies and start making your men treat you the way you want to be treated and if they aren't then move on, there are plenty of guys in this world.
Thanks!
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flatulence ettiquette

On my way home on the subway tonight, someone who elected to remain anonymous had some terribly disturbing smells of the flatulence sort, repeatedly wafting though the air. I tried to hold my breath, however, I have a 30 minute train ride home, and wouldn't have made it without taking a few breaths. I tried turning my head in different directions to alleviate some of the smell and possibly determine which direction it was coming from so that I could move to the opposite direction, but this effort was useless. The gentleman across from me was bluntly holding his hand over his nose and mouth. While the gentleman to my left (whom I believe was the culprit), put his head down into his lap. This all brings me to my question. 
What is the proper etiquette when the uncontrollable happens, you fart in public?
First, lets narrow down the types of farts into 3 categories. First off, the SBD, Silent But Deadly. When you cannot hold it in any longer, and you adjust your seating and your muscles just so, in order to let out air without sound, you have accomplished partial anonymity. Those around you can definitely smell it, but they didn't hear who it came from. In this instance, those in your immediate perimeter probably still know it was you. Those people next to them, have no clue where it came from.
The second type of gaseous expansion, is the LAS, Loud And Smelly. If this occurs, it is the most embarrassing of all. Everyone within hearing or smelling range knows it was you. You will probably receive some death-stares and hear people mumbling under their breath about you. It is too late to go back, you let it happen.
The third type is the best for you, the TSF, Top Secret Fart. This is a silent and not entirely malodorous fart. In this case, you got away with it completely. Thank your digestive system this time, you may not be so lucky next time.
So, what should our reaction be if each of these happen to us? The SBD/LAS: Do you say excuse me? Do you move yourself to another area? Do you get your perfume out of your purse and start spraying the air around you? The TSF: Do you pretend like nothing happened at all, or giggle to yourself quietly thinking about how you just got away with murder? How do you react when someone around you farts?
I am not sure the answer to these questions, so I am putting these out there in hopes of some responses. What do you think? How should you act or what should you say? The types of foods you eat can contribute to what type of fart, or the frequency of farts you have. So beware and be prepared with what your reaction will be in the worst case scenario.
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funny cat

This is for anyone who likes to laugh or who is having a bad day and needs to cheer up. You have to watch the entire video, it gets funnier and funnier the more you watch. Silly cat.
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when does something become official?

Lately it has become common language to ask, "are they facebook official?" If the answer is no, then people assume that the couple is not really exclusive yet and there may still be a chance for someone to swoop in and stir things up a bit. Then there is the counter argument, if someone is listed as "engaged" or "married" on facebook, does that mean they are legally married, or that the girl is sporting a diamond?
Are we moving into a technology based reality, where whatever is on our webpage is to be taken as the truth? Or, are we more skeptical now of what is true because of the internet?
I tend to believe that we are more skeptical now than ever. When we see something on a facebook page or hear a rumor, we immediately go to the internet to find various evidence to either prove or disprove what we have heard. The problem with that however, is that we are simply going back to the internet to try to find facts about something we found on the internet. The internet is full of lies. How can we decipher the facts from the fiction? One thing we can try to do is have more human interaction in real life. This virtual reality is only distancing us from other humans. Sure, I can look at your facebook profile and see what you did last night. I can stalk all my friends on facebook, but then how long is it before they are no longer my friends in real life? There are definitely positives and negatives. It can help you reconnect with an old friend, but you can only see what that person wants you to see. You can only read what they tell you about their day. Why not meet up with them in person and ask how their day is going? That way they are more likely to tell you the truth.
Scenario 1. You just found out your ex is seeing someone new, before you have. You immediately jump onto facebook to do your research. You see that his status only says In a Relationship, but you can't remember if he took it down last week when you did. You check his pictures. He has one with a girl taken two nights ago. Is this her? Oh wait, she commented below it, "That party was so fun!" How come you weren't invited, it must be her. Click on her. Profile is set to private. Darn! But wait, her profile picture is with another guy. Can't be her. Unless that's her brother or something. Back to ex's page. Searching for a wall post. Here's one from her, "Hey did you find my bracelet anywhere, I think I lost it during the party. Let me know! thanks xo." XO! oh man... XO! Do you know what that means? It's gotta be her. I wonder how long they've been dating. Oh wait, heres a post from another girl, "Was nice meeting you in the quad last week, hope to run into you again." Wait, last week? Maybe this is her? Click on her. Awesome, you are in her network and she let's people in her network view her profile, ha, amateur. She's Soooo Ugly. Wow did he downgrade or what? Clicking through her pictures, ok so maybe she's not terrible looking. You see three profile pictures ago she is kissing another guy. Ok, back to her info. She is listed as single. Hum. Skank. This has got to be her. Was she at his party? Back to ex's page. Looking through album titled "Partayyy." She is not in any pictures. But she could have been there. Heres a picture of him with another girl, hey you know that girl. She is in your English Lit class. You are facebook friends, let's see if she's on chat now. She is. Do you write her? What would you say, "Hey are you dating my ex?" You feel like a stalker. You just spent 15 minutes online trying to figure out if he is seeing someone else, and so far, you've got nothing.
Scenario 2. You just found out your ex is seeing someone new, before you have. You text your closest gal pal to see if she's heard the news and ask her advice on what to do. She tells you she has no idea and that you should just call him to find out. Call him? Is that a bad idea? Then he'll know that you still care about him and you will look desperate. Instead, you text him a very vague message hoping he will spill all his wrong doings out to you. You text, "Hey, what's new?" His reply, "nm, u?" Ugh, why do guys have to make you pry the information from their cold bloody hands? "Oh not much, just wondering if you had plans later?" WAIT, why did you send that, he's going to think you want to hang out with him, not that you are trying to figure out if he's going out with someone else. Ugh, too late. He replies, "not really, just hanging out." Great! He isn't seeing anyone, phew, unless, he is hanging out with her. But you can't say, oh who are you hanging out with. So you just reply with a "that's cool." Again, time wasted, and you got nowhere.
Scenario 3. You just found out your ex is seeing someone new, before you have. You know you will run into him at lunch in the dining hall on Wednesday and you will have Bio together right after, maybe you can casually mention it then. Wednesday comes. You see him sitting at a table across the room. There is a group of girls and guys sitting with him. Is one of those girls her? He walks by you to throw away his trash, and he says, "Hey." You reply with, "Hey, did you finish the lab for bio?" He says, "Yea it was a long night last night finishing it up, did you?" "Yea, mind if we compare answers while we walk to class?" "Sure." He walks back to his table. Yes, he can't have another girl, he wants to walk with you! Then you see it, with your own eyes, he walks over to your table hand-in-hand with one of the girls from his table, as she gets closer you realize she is in your bio class too. But they are holding hands, the rumors are true. "Hey, I wanted to introduce you to my..."

Alright, so all of these scenarios are made up, but you have to admit that technology makes a huge difference on the way our life pans out. If we hear something, we should try to confront it straight on, in person, to get the most definitive and true answer. If we approach it from a facebook spy way, like most of us try, we may not be getting the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, so help us God. If we go the texting route, we are likely to get vague responses to our vague questions and you can never tell someone's tone of voice via text. You never know if someone is being sarcastic or not. If you face your fears head on, you may not like the answer you get, but at least you will know the truth one way or another. So good luck with trying to believe less of what the internet is telling you, because you never know if the author was telling the truth.
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hobbies

some people have hobbies
some people have careers
some people struggle endlessly to turn their hobbies into careers.

cutest dog ever

Messy Excuses

I'm not sure how I should start this one out because I really don't mean to direct it at anyone but people are probably going to take it personally. I guess they should though, because what's the point of blogging advice unless someone listens to it? So, here we go, and if any of this applies to you, then great! We all have room for self-improvement!
Step 1. Stop giving excuses for why you haven't; pursued your dreams, done the household chores, broken up with the guy that you know is bad news, kept your promise, taken your girlfriend out on a date, showed up on time ever, etc etc. I could go on and on, but if you feel you are not doing things that you should be doing. Stop shelling out excuses all the time because eventually people will no longer believe them, and get really irritated.
Step 2. Make an effort. Change doesn't come over night but get up early and try to change those things that you keep giving excuses for. Apply for as many jobs as you can in one day. Take ten minutes to clean the dishes that have been there all week. Make that call and tell the guy you aren't going to take him back this time. Follow through with something you've been saying you would do. Make a dinner reservation, show up, and pay. Leave extra early to make sure you are on time. A little effort goes a long way in making the people you care about happy, even making the people you don't care about happy.
Step 3. Do it again, and then some. Once you do something, it is easier to get into a habit of doing it. The hardest part is Step 2, its pretty smooth sailing from there. for example, getting yourself to the gym is hard sometimes when we lack motivation, but once you go and see the benefits and great results, you get addicted and want to go everyday. One trip applying for jobs may not be enough to land one, so go again every day until you get something. Once you've completed the dishes, take out the trash, and sweep the floor, and scrub the toilet, and the next day, don't leave the dishes around for another week, keep them clean. When that guy calls you, don't answer and let him convince you to see him, be done and then go find yourself someone else to go on a date with. Once you've kept one promise, think back and try to remember other promises that went unfulfilled and fulfill them. One date should last her a year or so right? No. Your lady deserves to be treated like a queen, after all, I'm sure she cooks nice dinners for you, etc and if you are feeling that your girl isn't treating you right, then go find one that will, but break up with the bad one first. No excuses, no cheating. Some jobs have a cap on the number of times you can be late in a given time period, so watch out, once you've started getting to work on time, try to keep it up everyday to avoid losing your job, or your girlfriend who is sick of waiting around for you.
Step 4. If the habit breaks, get back on track. Nobody is perfect, we all slip up. We have a bad interview that discourages us, a really dirty pan that you dread having to scrub, he texts you "I miss you" and your heart melts, you made a promise you knew you couldn't keep, you forgot her birthday, you overslept. Whatever the excuse is, you need to start back at step 1 and get back on track. No matter what the excuse is, it is always something manageable and something you can change. God will never give you more than you can handle.
Good luck everyone, and heres to making our new year's resolutions a bit early this year!

T.I. lyrics

These are some good lyrics from the song live your life with T.I. and Rihanna, if only T.I. had listened to his own advice, maybe he wouldn't have ended up in jail. Haha. Anyway, its a good reminder to stay focused on the things that matter in life and not get caught up in the good things and take them for granted. Often times we pray to God when we are in need of something, but we forget to praise him when everything is going well. You need to thank him for the good times and the bad times because every day is a blessing and the bad times teach you things and make you stronger. We should all strive to remain humble. I have to remind myself because I do tend to brag sometimes because we all seek approval and we all want to be told that we are doing things right. So, from now on, try to take notice when you feel you are searching for a compliment. I know it's nice to hear, but wouldn't it mean more to you if you didn't have to lead someone into giving you one?
Another thing to take a look at is if you tend to blame others for your problems instead of owning up to them yourself. Don't blame your parents for anything, if you are now an adult, there is nothing stopping you from changing your ways except you. I always blame the fashion industry for not accepting my height and measurements when really, I just need to do my best to fit into the measurements that are standard in the industry as safely and healthily as I can. The industry is not going to change for me, and I am choosing to try to be a part of it. If only we could all realize that we are the ones who need to change most of the time instead of blaming others.

Seems as though you lost sight of what's important when depositing
them checks into your bank account, and you up out of poverty.
Your values is in disarray, prioritizing horribly.
Unhappy with the riches cause you're pis-poor morally.
Ignoring all prior advice and forewarning.
And we mighty full of ourselves all of a sudden, aren't we?

(not proper English, but you get the point) :)
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new design

What do we think of the new design of the blog? I'm not sure I'm happy with it, but its now 5:20am, and after 3 hours or so of tweaking it, I'm just going to leave it alone for now. Feedback? Suggestions?

daily dose of inspiration

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
by Marianne Williamsonfrom A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles

love this song!

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